Walter was known for constantly flirting with the prettiest girls. One relationship here, another there. No party left unattended and never a hint of seriousness with his relationships. The older he got, the more concerned his family became. At 39, he suddenly introduces his relatives to a “wallflower,” a simple girl, in no way flashy or glamorous… and announces that he’s going to marry her! The siblings are beside themselves: he has never even looked at such a woman in the last twenty years. He didn’t have to, because he didn’t want to get married and start a family yet. So he knew all along that he was dating playmates who didn’t have what it took to be the mother of his children. When the time was right, he had found a good wife!
People change, set new priorities, and develop different ideas about life. Out of nowhere, two people who hadn’t “discovered” each other a while ago can suddenly fit together. This is a particularly important point for men: they must deliberately make a conscious decision to take responsibility before they approach a woman with whom they have long-term intentions. Because this means leaving behind a bachelor’s life and the excitement of independence, such a life transition must be made willingly and intentionally in the mind before any actual action is likely to be taken.
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Dr. Gudrun Kugler is the founder of kathTreff, a German-language dating site and partner community of Ave Maria Singles.
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