Is online dating just a last resort?

Online dating is an opportunity

I keep hearing that online dating is only for the “leftovers.” When I suggest that someone try it out, they say: “What? Do you really think things are that bad for me?” To me, that logic falls flat. Today, half the world belongs to singles websites. Why wait until your suffering becomes excessive? Why make life unnecessarily difficult? The search for a partner is too important not to pursue it with all the strategically important means out there, all in the name of some misguided “noble restraint” to meet someone the old-fashioned way.

Even the parents of Joseph Ratzinger (Pope Benedict XVI) met through a newspaper announcement: the forerunner of the singles website. As we all know, you catch fish in the net! Where a good marriage begins is of secondary importance, and that also applies to the Internet. A large part of social life has moved there – so the search for a partner must also move there. If most young Central Europeans spend 30% of their free time on the Internet, it stands to reason that the chances of meeting someone “offline” are now reduced by half. Logically, singles should go where others congregate in order to find a partner: including the Internet.

Online dating even has advantages:

• Some people find that going out frequently while looking for a partner can be very stressful. Others are simply exhausted after a day’s work. An evening on the Internet is a welcome respite.
• For now, everyone on the internet is the same. The “first impression” is a different experience now. For all those who are not divas, who do not naturally attract everyone’s attention, and who are not the social center of every community, the Internet is a unique opportunity. Extroverts and introverts are finally equal!
• The Internet is also a great help for the many who do not live in big cities. And for those new to a city who are not yet invited out somewhere every evening.
• Some singles also find it unpleasant to be watched every step of the way by relatives, neighbors, and acquaintances. This is where the privacy of the Internet comes in handy, allowing the search to be hidden from invasively interested eyes.
• Naughty men can’t come after you on the internet. The “delete” button is sometimes a real advantage!

Not convinced yet? Elisabeth and Reiner told me: “After initially struggling to register with your dating site, we finally managed it. Before our first meeting, we wrote many emails over a period of 3 weeks. Already then we realized that we got along well. Soon after the first meeting, we knew we were going to get married. And so we said moved forward. We are very happy and happy that we got married, and very grateful that this siteexists. We highly recommend this dating community.”

I heard from Sophia: “I was a member for over three years! Since I’m already in my early forties, I received rejections from most of the men under the motto: ‘Too old to start a family…’ But with full trust I continued to look to Jesus. HE alone can fulfill the longings that HE places in our hearts… Then in early fall: a photo with a very interesting profile caught my eye! I wrote him a few lines… A very lovely answer came back quickly! We got married just under a year later!”

Online dating is an iron in the fire.

Or an egg in the basket, as the English say. You’ve got nothing to lose. Be brave! Get out there…

 

 

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